At DSO you have all these older people that were THERE, man, and they smile at us younger ones that never saw Jerry, and their "gone are the days" tales are beautiful and a part of the legacy continuing, because that seems to be what most of them care about.... the music and culture continuing.
But at Furthur, I have been punched in the front 5 rows for not moving, propositioned for a miracle with disgusting language even AFTER politely saying no, and had to deal with a lot of older guys who just generally have absolutely no respect for the music (when you talk to them these particular jerks usually saw one show in 1994) and want to push the younger people around and make us feel as small and insignificant as possible (at one show, when they went into Looks Like Rain, the guy standing on me that we had been trying to COMMUNICATE with that had begun getting violent FINALLY realized WHERE HE WAS and WHAT HE WAS HEARING and stopped and moved over to his own seat finally, after apologizing and hugging us because "it's looks like rain").
These people walk around trying to find young people who look like they are really into the music standing in the front (like us) during set break, ask about "the first time you saw the boys" just so they can talk crap to you to inflate their own egos (and then steal your spot when they piss you off) when you explain you never saw Jerry and how you were still led to this magical music in your own unconventional way.... then these people say how they saw hundreds of shows in the 90s and you realize you might puke soon from the whiskey on their breath..... sigh. it's a bummer. and now a lot of these pricks are coming to "check out DSO" for the first time and they are just as awful to be around at those shows, but I take it more personally, because I can sigh and give up my spot in front of JK when he is playing with Phil and Bob, but I learned to stand right there watching him in DSO, and that is still my spot, and I don't appreciate being treated like I've never seen a show at DSO when that is like, my home, and these people are seeing it for the first time just to judge it and talk crap. I feel the same way when people come up to the front of Furthur and talk crap on JK, or get mad at ME for telling them Sunshine is not Jerry's daughter or whatever... why do people TALK during shows, anyway? At our first few Furthur shows everyone fought for the Phil side and laughed at us for wanting to stand in front of JK, now it is the most VIOLENT place to stand, and that is really, really sad.
on the OTHER HAND, we have met some of the most amazing, kind hearted, genuine people on the planet on Furthur lot.... some of the miracles I have gotten have been the most beautiful, life affirming moments in my life to date, and the people that recognize me from the internet at shows really make me happy because it starts fun conversation in these face to face meetings, and seeing Phil and Bob play LIKE THAT (like what we listen to all day on the recordings), in fact, in Phil's case, often BETTER THAN EVER, really makes our hearts sooo happy! Seeing Phil smiling at JK is just about the most beautiful sign of cross generational, musical connectedness that we ever get to see. Seriously, Furthur has brought some of the most amazing people on the planet together, and I FORGIVE THE JERKS every show, because the amazing people that have gathered always outweighs the idiots. Furthur is kinda changing the world, at least this little bit of it, for those who are allowing it, and it is a needed change indeed.
And, hey, why do people think that just because all these AMAZING, TALENTED, MIND BLOWING musicians that have played Grateful Dead music in various combinations, and just so happen to be at a lot of the same festivals, that they would ever want to all just play together? This music is life consuming. It takes a toll on the people who play it. The fans are the pickiest fans in the universe. The musicians themselves all have their own inner interpretations of the music, and their own life paths they must follow. Like any relationship, sometimes, when it is over, it's nice to think about the good old days, but sometimes its best for the people to not see each other ever again, or at least not breed (creating music is a lot like breeding.) I dunno, let em all do what they want, I don't hold out a lot of hope for any grand GD musician jams, because I kinda get that they all have their own ego trips now, and that they are all doing beautiful things with that, I just hope JK gets to keep playing super psychedelic, mind expanding music with the best of the best, he deserves it more than anyone.