1. Obviously the OP made a terrible decision and has acknowledged the fact. Fortunately the worst outcome didn't happen. I think the punishment fits the crime: feeling like shit that you harmed your animal most importantly AND missing tour. I for one am not gonna kick a man when he's down. It took balls to even post this and I respect that. I know that it will never happen again.
2. Kids at shows. Wow I could write a small book on this alone from all the stuff I've seen. I'll try to be concise. First babys should NOT be at shows..its bad for their ears.. amongst other things. If you can't afford a babysitter you shouldn't be wasting your only cash on concert tickets. I still have an image burned into my brain of it being about 90 degress at Foxboro 1990..this "fill in wookie name" um lady probably all of 22 or 23....was trying to push a baby carriage through a rock strewn parking lot and the kids head was bouncin all over the place. Nitrous tanks everywhere with the hissssssssssssss. Bad stuff. I am with an above poster outdoor shows that aren't free for alls to Me is ok for kids. Example: I took my kids to 2 Ratdog shows that were part of the Jam on The River in Philly. They had a whole kids section that my kids loved --even a guy who played kids songs. It was a family enviroment. Again this is my opinion, I would never take my kids to an indoor show or free for all festival.... funky brah what are you gonna do if the people next to start firing up? I had a similar situation at the last Philly dead spectrum show. Sweet seats and party favors. 5 minutes before the show starts a guy and I'd guess about 8 yr old kid sat next to me. The dad on the aisle and the kid next to me. The bus was going by and I was on... it was pretty uncomfortable. The band comes on and the folks in fornt of us and behind us fire up... at that point I can't control what your kid sees you brought him here. Finally about 4trh tune I turned my back and we did what we do. On top of that the "dad" dissapears for 30 minutes during set break and leaves the kid next to me-- I love kids and basically spent a 1/2 hour in my "challenged" state talking to him. When I bought my ticket I did not sign upop to be your babysitter
--- unless you are prepared to have your kids see people tokin up, others drunkenly swerving, people freakin out that can't handle their trip, are ready to explain why all these people are sitting on the ground sucking on balloons, people standing "flibbit" on a balloon, see a guy torch his leg cause he spilled kerosene on it or any number of variables (WOOKIES FIGHTIN ....) I would leave the kids at home. I've seen all of the above and worse in my travels...not that all this stuff happens at every show but strange shit does happen. (besides the fact that on most nights at an indoor facility you can get a contact buzz just breathing). I'll shut up now.. ultimately it comes down to each parents own decision--I just hpe they consider all angles before takin the "leap of faith" that nothing bad could happen.