"fucked up" is a relative term.
i use cannabis, first and foremost, for fun and enjoyment, but i aslo use its medicinal properties to deal with panic attacks, sleep problems, and appetite problems. after ive smoked cannabis i am more reasonable, more patient, more understanding, and a better ability to see the world for what it really is. my mood is better, my motions and actions are more fluid and thought out, and my capacity for understanding and forgiveness goes thru the roof.
i do not, however, forget things repeatedly, space out or become apathetic or uncaring. I do not get red eyes or droopy eyelids, and generally no one can tell the difference between when im stoned and when im not.
im not a parent now, but if someday i am, i think i would be a worse parent if i laid off the pot! when im not high i get panic attacks, which lead to anger and depression...this has been going on since before i started smoking, it isnt withdrawl.
and as a cannabis user, i would think it well to not seem like you are hiding it from your kids. if there's nothing wrong with smoking pot, why hide it? and if you are hiding it you obviously think, or personally experience, negative aspects of cannabis. so why not stop smoking? it obviously isnt helping you to become a better person if you feel the need to hide it from your children.
now this of course leaves out the worry that little jimmy will mention to his teacher that his daddy smokes this funny smelling green stuff. that would be a GREAT reason to hide it from your kids. lol.
Some very great points!! No need to hide. You should be truthful with your children..after all, they will grow up and be their own people someday and you don't want your relationship to be built on a bed of lies.